Keep the dream alive! And how an accountability partner can help give you direction.

Are there times that you feel super pumped about an idea that you’ve had about starting your own business, or getting organized at home, or taking on an at-home project yourself; but then a couple of weeks or so go by and the dream is gone; the charge and excitement have been lost?

Most of the time our dreams start to fizzle because we aren’t seeing instant gratification. As human beings, we crave for things that bring us pleasure, that satisfy certain urges or feelings. So when we don’t receive what we were looking for (instantly becoming a millionaire from the hottest business idea we’ve ever had), then naturally we give up and search for something else that will gratify our desire.

Having someone to continue to motivate you and continue to build your self-esteem is fundamental in trying to achieve goals.

Here are 4 ways an accountability partner can help you keep moving in a direction to make those dreams become a reality:

  1. They give you that kick in the butt when you want to stop. When you start feeling that you can’t really make this work, that all your dreams, are just that – dreams, then your partner in crime can help give you that self-esteem boost to remind you of what you can do if you keep working at it.
  2. They will push you to stop trying to take shortcuts, and do it already! We’ve all seen those fantastic infomercials, or the never-ending Facebook ads, that tell us if we just wear this waistband contraption, then we won’t need to work out ever again. Yeah, well, we know those are most likely not going to give us the long-lasting results we are looking for in life. Your accountability partner will help keep you on track. They should act as your sounding board to tell your ideas and keep you accountable for your actions so you don’t start taking too many shortcuts.
  3. They are great for bouncing different ideas around. Starting something new, means you need to first see if this is really something that could take off, or that is a need for others. Hello guinea pig; I mean, partner!
  4. They have a different angle of looking at things. Hindsight is 20/20. This is true; but foresight with a partner is 40/40! I’d say those odds look a lot better. Brainstorming is must with all ideas, especially the more complicated they get. You can’t possibly come up with all scenarios on your own, but with someone else there to help you look at all angles, you have a better chance of looking at ways a goal needs to be tweaked to make sure it has the best opportunity at succeeding.

*Your accountability needs to be someone you trust and someone you can easily get in contact with when you need (but don’t overuse this privilege). You need to make sure that regular check-ins are going to occur to ensure maximum motivation and encouragement are keeping you on track.

I know you can do whatever your heart can dream – you must believe in it more! Good luck! I’d love to hear about any great success stories with using an accountability partner. Comment below to let us know how it went, or is going, and any other tips you’d like to share.

Forget about Resolutions: Make a New Year’s Personal Mission for 2017

It’s that time of year where everyone is talking about New Year’s Resolutions! This is an exciting time; time to start anew; time to let yourself get a fresh start, or to make changes in your life.New Year's

If your New Year’s Resolutions go anything like mine, it probably is really exciting New Year’s night, and then falls flat sometime around February 1st (if I even make it that long).

Did you know only about 8% of most Americans actually keep their resolutions?! Say what? Well, at least now I know I’m not the only one.

How can we make our resolutions stick?

Find your purpose and meaning behind the resolution, and there you will find your motivation to succeed.

Do your New Year’s resolutions sound something like this:

“I’m going to quit smoking.”

“I’m going to start working out again.”

“I will stop yelling at my kids.”

 

Where is your personal “why” that is motivating you, pushing you, towards achievement?

 

Vince Lombardi, an inspiring football coach who inspired his players with the Green Bay packers to be the most dominating team in the 60s, said this:

 

“The difference between a successful person and others is not lack of strength; not a lack of knowledge; but rather a lack of will.”

 

Making a personal mission statement can help find your will and “why” to achieve your resolution this year! According to the Cleveland Clinic, having a personal mission statement will give you that push to put in the work needed to reach your goals.

 

Therefore, instead of making a New Year’s Resolution, try a new spin – a New Year’s Personal Mission. Follow these easy steps from the Cleveland Clinic, to master your statement just in time for the big ball to drop:

1) Identify what you are passionate about.

2) Ask yourself what is the most important thing in your life right now.

3) Own your values and your character traits.

4) Know your strengths.

5) Brainstorm what will make the most impact in your personal life.

6) Think back on your happiest moments in your life and have them ready.

7) Identify who you most admire and the reasons you admire him/her.

8) Ask yourself if you had no limits or restraints, what would you want to do with your life?

Now, take this list and put your goal into a working plan. Here are some examples to help you get started:

“To become closer to my kids by talking to them each day about things they liked and things that they have questions about from their day; so that I can come to understand them better and learn more about what makes them happy, angry, or sad to develop more awareness for when these emotions come up and I don’t get lost and overwhelmed and lose my cool so often.”

 

Tada! There’s your New Year’s Personal Mission!

 

Still aren’t sure if this will work? Well, I believe in you and I want you to succeed, so here are more tips to help you with your mission:

  1. Say it out loud. People who actually let at least one other person know what their mission is, are 10 times more likely to succeed at achieving their mission. It holds you accountable for what you are trying to achieve. And honestly, don’t we all hate losing face?
  2. Be specific when you’re writing. A mission statement is meant to be your guide for when you forget your way. Don’t just say, “I’m going to stop yelling at my kids.” Add more depth so that when you look back you’ll remember exactly what you can do to start moving forward.
  3. Be yourself. A personal mission statement isn’t meant to change who you are at the core. It is meant to give you clarity for how you can work WITH your personality and bridge your values with your purpose to be effective.

 

I would love to hear what you create! Share your personal mission statements below.